Sexpert Q & A​

People often ask me how to introduce the topic of adult toys into their relationship. So I thought this would be a good topic for this month’s blog. Why toys? Approaching the Subject Remember when you were a kid. Sometimes you played with toys by yourself. Other times...

I find it fascinating that some men do not understand the pleasure of anal play and prostate stimulation. The prostate gland plays a pivotal role in our enjoyment and in our ejaculation and orgasm process. The anus (actually the rectum) is full nerves and is the best...

One of Aphrodite’s Pleasure’s customers, let’s call him John, has asked after reading the last column, “Well how do men choose a sex toy then?” So the challenge has been laid and here I go as I (try) to explain how to choose sex toy for men. The variety of toys...

Those Pink Bits In this month’s column I look at women’s sexual anatomy. I have discussed aspects of women’s anatomy in the past; this month we explore the complete sexual anatomy of women. In my practice I often find myself explaining to women and men female sexual...

I find it fascinating when discussing sex repertoire with people (couples and singles) the number of women who report oral sex does nothing for her. I use this as an opportunity to explore relationship dynamics and techniques being used. More often than not, the...

May is Masturbation month, a movement started by a sex-positive and women-friendly toy store, Good Vibations in California back in May 1995. It has grown and now is internationally celebrated, with World Masturbation occurring on May 28. Masturbation is for everyone....

Through the years, the concept of sex has dramatically evolved. Today, it is seen as self-expression, exercise, love, or communication.  Thanks to technology, intimacy is never compromised. But it is also undeniable that not everyone can enjoy sex as much as...

We were recently contacted by a customer who asked me to write about how to discuss having a threesome. I clarified whether the person meant how to have a threesome. Their response was, “No how to talk to your partner about the idea.” So this month we will explore how...

How Long Should I Last There is no definitive answer to this question. Each man is different and each time we have sex or masturbate is different. A recent Australian study reported that approximately 50% of men lasted between two and ten minutes of penetration (1)....

Sexual desire, or sexual libido, is a strange bedfellow. I often work with couples who report a lack of desire for sex in both or one partners. Some people have low libido; other people have high libido. Sometimes our sexual libidos are matched; other times our...

Is Valentine’s Day a Tradition or a Commercial Farce? As February has St Valentine’s Day, I thought I would focus this month’s blog on whether it is a tradition or a commercial farce. Valentine’s Day – the Saint is dropped so often – is celebrated on February 14. It...