Sexpert Q & A​

Sex in Australia - Who is Doing What How Often? This month we will explore sex in Australia: who is doing what activities, and how often from the recently released research the Australian Study of Health and Relationships (ASHR) (1). The Australian Study of Health and...

Sexual Identity This month’s column I have decided to talk about sexual identity. I am regularly asked various questions by both women and men about whether they may be gay or lesbian or bisexual based on a same-sex experience. As you will read, it is not so clear...

We all have fantasies. But what to do with our sexual fantasies? When working with clients I often talk about the role of sexual fantasies in healthy sex play. We know from research that sexual fantasies are perfectly normal and healthy. Ignoring or hiding your...

 Getting to Know Your Tackle This month we discuss the male sexual anatomy. As it is more than just the penis and testicles, we will take a tour of men’s anatomy and discover some new knowledge. I am surprised how many people I work with in therapy do not know...

Taking it like the man you are! Pegging is when a woman performs anal sex on a man, using a strap-on dildo (with a harness). It is through anal play men experience stimulation of their prostate gland – a most enjoyable experience according to any man who has had the...

I want to first make it clear this blog does not advocate a position on benefits or detriments of pornography use. In this blog, I aim to provide a set of strategies people can use to assist them to discuss the use of pornography and/or erotica in sex play....

This month we explore oral sex on men. Sexual skills do not come naturally. These skills need to be learnt and practiced. Yet we forget this point. No sex education at school ever included how to have sex play and make it fun. I learnt along the way. A great book is...

Cock Rings – What are they and why use them? Cock rings, penis rings, constriction devices – three words which amount the same object. The term penis rings is a polite term, whereas constriction device is a term used more so in medical and research literature.  Cock...

This month’s column focuses on anal play for women. There are many taboos around anal play for men and women. In July I published a column on anal play for men. As you may have read in that column anal play can directly stimulate a man’s prostate gland which is a key...

Helpful Hints for Choosing a Vibrator Adrian, the Sales Manager at Aphrodite's Pleasure, was recently asked at one of Aphrodite’s Products Events about the different types of vibrators. He suggested this as the topic of this month’s column. Before we begin looking at...